The Alberta-based Muslim community group Muslims of Calgary has a document on its website titled “How to Make Your Wife Happy,” written by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed. Directed toward Muslim husbands, the document goes over ways men should treat their wives in any number of situations, from greeting them after school to intimate time.
Some of these nuggets of wisdom are rather sweet: “Spend time talking together,” “[Make] it obvious that [you] appreciate her hard work,” “Offer a warm farewell and good advice.”
Others are a little less subtle: “It’s obligatory to do it [have sex] habitually if you have no excuse,” “Enter into her in the proper place only (not from the back).”
Of course, all’s fair in love and war. Romance and courtship are no longer required if your wife is giving you a hard time, apparently.
Correcting her Mistakes- First, implicit and explicit advice several times.- Then by turning your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.- The last solution is lightly hitting (when allowable) her. In this case, the husband should consider the following:a) He should know that sunnah is to avoid beating as the Prophet PBUH never beat a woman or a servant.b) He should do it only in extreme cases of disobedience, e.g. refusing intercourse without cause frequently, constantly not praying on time, leaving the house for long periods of time without permission nor refusing to tell him where she had been, etc..c) It should not be done except after having turned from her bed and discussing the matter with her as mentioned in Qur`an .d) He should not hit her hard injuring her, or hit her on her face or on sensitive parts of her body.e) He should avoid shaming her such as by hitting her with a shoe, etc.
Well, there you have it. If your wife doesn’t pray on time, you can give her a wallop. (Ever wondered why you see bruised Muslim women around Daylight Savings Time?)
Of course, we have to admire the progressive nature of this document. Just think, 50 years ago you could beat your wife before turning your back to her. Thank goodness that middle step is there now.
H/T Blazing Cat Fur.
